I'm a sex coach for individuals and couples in Portland Oregon and online.
I am Emerald (she/her), an international certified breathwork & intimacy coach, and sexological bodyworker, driven by a deep commitment to empowerment, self-discovery, and transformation. My journey is a testament to the power of embracing vulnerability, accepting oneself, and finding the courage to live authentically.
On this page you will discover more about my mission, vision, values, story and education.
My Mission.
My mission is to guide individuals and parents to live a more authentic, connected and pleasure filled life.
Through embodiment practices, coaching,
hands-on bodywork, and breathwork.
My Vision.
Rooted Pleasure's Vision is to empower global villages of self-aware adults to support themselves, and raise the next generation to live in embodied, authentic truth.
Where pleasure is celebrated, with compassion, with responsibility for themselves, and in connection and care for others and the earth.
My Values.
Some core values of my work include;
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Self-compassion - honor your journey and meet yourself where you are at.
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Self-acceptance - love yourself more, expand safely in a titrated way.
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Self-responsibility - learn embodied consent and empower yourself to make changes.
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Embodied Consent & Boundaries first.
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Professionalism & Educational.
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Client centered.
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Non-judgmental.
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Growth oriented.
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Pleasure centric.
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Integrity.
About you.
You are a woman, femme or a couple of any gender and sexual expression who has lost connection to yourself, your sexuality and your partner.
I also work with cis-het men who are working concurrently with a therapist, have done some personal development work, or have attended an intro to conscious sexuality workshop.
Why I became a sex coach
As a mother to two teenagers,
I understand the intricate dynamics of parenthood and the ever-evolving journey of raising children and the impact on your body, your sexuality, sensuality and intimate relationships.
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I specialize in guiding mostly women and couples to live a more authentic, connected, and pleasure filled lives through Embodied Sex, Intimacy, Breathwork coaching and Sexological Bodywork.
These practices are grounded in my diverse background, encompassing developmental psychology and early years education, and guided by a client-centered, trauma-informed approach.
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My journey is a continuous evolution, encompassing healing sexual shame and stigma, embracing motherhood, nurturing relationships, co-creating community, and dismantling patriarchal conditioning. I have a deep commitment to the pillars of self-compassion, self-acceptance, and self-responsibility, and these principles infuse my work.
I identify as a woman, queer, kinky, ethically non-monogamous,
white, able-bodied, with hidden disabilities.
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My Journey
Becoming a parent
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I first became a parent in 2007 and like many, found myself in the unknown-disconnected from my identity outside of being a parent. After a challenging divorce, finding myself a single mother with two young children, I embarked on my path of self-discovery to re-connect to the lost and forgotten parts of me.
Sexological Bodywork & Conscious Connected Breathwork
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Throughout my journey of exploring different healing modalities, immersing myself in sex-positive, neo-tantric, conscious sexuality and conscious kink communities in London, whilst raising my children, I realised my mission to support others to do the same. So I trained in Sexological Bodywork and Conscious Connected Breathwork, to bring these healing opportunities to mothers and parents.
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It takes a village
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Co-creating community is my heart song and I co-founded Vermilion, a sex-positive wellbeing community in London, UK and was production lead for many online tantra and conscious relating festivals during the pandemic years. These experiences shaped how I craft group spaces, helped illuminate my shadows and guided me to move into more integrity with how I work.
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I blend lived experience and training
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With my personal experience of being a single parent, and now co-parent, navigating and thriving with Herpes Simplex Virus and Lichen Simplex Chronicus, mental health challenges, and exploring my sexuality and queerness. Alongside being a recovering perfectionist and person socialised as a woman trying to break out of internal and relational patriarchal and misogynistic conditioning, I have an embodied understanding of re-learning my pleasure in order to stay true to myself, connect with others deeper, with more presence and self-acceptance.
I bring this lived experience alongside my education, to walk alongside you on your journey to your wholeness.
"We're all just walking each other home"
Ram Dass
More about me
Beyond my professional pursuits, you can find me hiking the breathtaking landscapes of the Pacific Northwest, wild swimming, watching movies with my kids, painting & crafting, immersing myself in reading and learning, meditating, laying about on logs or in the forest, playing my cello, dancing to the rhythm of life, and indulging in self-care with sauna, cold plunges, yoga, and bodywork.
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How this impacts my work
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I marry my personal, practical and professional experiences as a way to allow us to take any path in this process, as guided by you and your body. I value and revere the courage it takes to ask for support, honouring your desire to thrive and the journey of re-learning to communicate with and through your body!
My Education and Trainings
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Psychology BSc (Hons) with University of Surrey, U.K (2019)
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Dual certification in Sexological Bodywork and Emb​odied Sex Coaching with Katie Sarra and Kian de la Cour, Sea School of Embodiment
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Conscious Connected Breathwork Facilitator Training with Steph Magenta and Rae Riedel from Integrative Breath​
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Like A Pro The Wheel of Consent® for Practitioners, with Betty Martin & Katie Spataro, School of Consent
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Consensual Touch™ The Wheel of Consent® Embodied Experience, Sea School of Embodiment
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3 Keys to Genital Dearmouring with Rahi Chun
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Trauma Awareness Training with Catherine Hale
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Restorative Justice Circle Training with Association of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers Ethics Committee
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Mothering Your Daughter Through Menarche with Red School
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Introduction to Body Poem with Katie Sarra
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Heal Thyself; A transformative initiation for people racialised as white; The Intersection of Mankind
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Cultural Somatics: Resmaa Menakem
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Sacred Spaces - Circle Mentoring with Jenny Rose
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Sacred Sexuality and Conscious Kink Practitioner Training with Seani Love from The School of Erotic Mysteries
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International School of Temple Arts attended level 1 (UK), assisted level 1 and attended level 2 (Iceland)*
*Although I do not affiliate myself with ISTA anymore due to unethical leadership, and harm caused and my personal experience of working alongside and for teachers who were also facilitators for ISTA. I also want to recognise the transformative journey I took with the organism and remain transparent about my experiences. If you have questions about any of my trainings, please email me hello@rootedpleasure.com
Current Training
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Breath Coach Training for Teaching Children with School Breathe